Dealing with a Loss: Gaining Self

One of the things we both know is that every person is different. We each have our own tickle spots, and our own crying triggers. We each deal with stress in different ways and certainly, we each deal with our own grief in different ways. So what works for you, in the time frame that is best for you, may not work for me.

That being said, there are many who do work on the same level, do cry for the same reasons, do move forward at the same time.

I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t compare your personal story to that of others; don’t look to someone else’s healing as if the same exact process will be working for you.  Walk in the faith, however, that you will proceed in life and your life is going to be excellent.

Realize that the process has already started since you were able to empower yourself just by reaching out to learn more of who you are, where you can be going.

Each of us need to realize that we are in and of ourselves wonderful individuals with a lot to offer society. We stand for ourselves.  We each are stronger than any loss—no matter if it be someone we love, a house, a job, a relationship. We each bear the strength within to overcome any situation.  It’s up to us to allow that strength to come forward.

Have you tapped into your inner strength to Remove Your Invisible Fence©?

Cycles of Life

Cycles

The levels of maturing has always been a marvel to me.  Growing by learning has absolutely everything to do with it.  When we are toddlers, our minds are sponges. When we are pre-teens, we are anxious to be teenagers. As a teenager, more times than not, we seem to “know” more than our parents, our teachers. In our twenties, we embrace the world with open eyes. Our thirties have us embedded in making a living and entering our forties we seem to start getting grounded.

When the fifties move in, empowerment and self confidence are strong. The sixties have us wondering how the heck we got here so fast, and then in the seventies, we deeply appreciate each and every day as we say goodbye to more and more of our peers.

For many, life continues strong; those who have taken care of themselves both physically, mentally and spiritually look forward to each and every day.  If we are lucky, our eighties can be fulfilled.  And it is truly a blessing to celebrate our nineties.

For a small sector of our beings, we have those who enter past their century mark, their 100’s.  I am blessed to have two wonderful people in my life, husband and wife, who are there.  He will be seeing 101 in a few months; she will embrace 100 a couple months after.  I am in constant contact with them and try to celebrate as much as possible with them. Just being with them is a celebration in and of itself.

And so, when I was invited to their home to acknowledge a Jewish high holiday, instead of attending services at my synagogue, the deep answer inside of me screamed out ‘yes’!.  What I witnessed, however, was a man who was trying to secure his position in life and retain his control over his home, his dining table.  ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P1MUvhieNrU ) It seemed that, although we began the ritual prayers with his lead, some of the attendees took away something that our host very much wanted: to be holding the reigns.

It brings to mind how all of our learning, from being a toddler thru adults, to senior age and then beyond, how we strive to grow into people who stand on our own. We become accustomed to having our own backbone and developing our inner strength.  Even at an amazing age of 100+, it’s important for each of us who are of sound mind to be independent and the people who surround us need to acknowledge and respect that.

Are you blessed with people in your life that have made it to the century mark of their life? Do you allow them their independence or are you prone to ‘do things for them’, things that they can manage on their own?

Something to think about.

It was a delightful evening.